Easy Guide to Seating Guests
The seating of wedding guests has long been done by the Ushers, but has changed over the years to Ushers now being called Groomsmen and Groomsmen are now doing the ushering of guests into the ceremony.
You can have two separate groups of guys, Ushers (who seat the guests) Groomsmen, who attend the Groom or just Ushers/Groomsmen, who do both.
Below is a list of duties, for the seating of guests and way to do so.
Groomsmen/Usher duties involve giving directions, helping guests, and escorting guests to their seats. Groomsman/Ushers should arrive at the ceremony site, 45 minutes before the ceremony.
The First row on each side is normally reserved for bridal party to sit during the ceremony, or the parents and immediate family. The second, third and fourth rows are for special family members and the planner or the couple should have a list for the groomsmen to use, for that seating. Otherwise, you may have lots of empty rows in the front of the church. It’s also a good idea, if you don’t have a wedding planner/coordinator, assign one of the Groomsman/Ushers to be in charge and instruct the rest.
When seating guests, groomsmen/ushers will be in one or two rows. One on left side of aisle, one on right side of aisle, in the event there are a number of groomsman in the bridal party or one row on, either left or right side of aisle.
In the event of a “BRIDE” AND “GROOM SIDE”
When guests arrive if there is a “Bride Side” and “Groom Side”, groomsmen ask guests as they approach, which side they would like to be seated on? If the guest wants to be seated on “Bride” side, Groomsman, will offer his right arm to her, the same happens to groom’s side. Male guests follow the usher. When taking guests to seat, Groomsman/Usher should ask the guest to “follow me” or “this way please”.
If you have Intermingled Seating (Try to keep each side equal in people)
When guests arrive, groomsmen offer their right arm to the women and the man follows behind. Do not ask “Bride or Groom side”
In the event a group wants to sit together, the oldest woman in the group, is the one escorted. All others follow behind.
If a man comes alone, groomsman should ask the guest to follow them and then escorts them to their seat.